We all know dating is hard enough, but add being a single parent into the equation and you'll feel like you're back in school staring at the worse possible Trigonometry formula on the black board.
Finding time for yourself is hard enough, finding time to meet someone, let alone date is almost next to impossible. What seems hard to me, is not the fact that I'm single and currently not in a relationship, it's how people seem to view you for being in your 30's, single and never having married. Goodness, when your own brother calls you a spinster, and you're own Father makes the statement you'll never get married, you're bound to feel a little down on yourself.
So you begin to analyze yourself a little more, which isn't always a bad thing. I realized my habit was may be being a little too critical, too analytical, and may be even a tad too picky. I mean, when I decide to dismiss a guy because his shoes don't match his outfit, I think it's time I bend a little
With that in mind, I took the big leap....I agreed to meet a guy, a friend of mine knew. LOL. Her knowing how picky I am about guys, she decided to tell me all the downfalls of him she knew first (she's a smart girl.). Then we decided it would be best if I check him out myself first instead of the "blind date" saga. So the plan was set in motion....they all bowl on a league together, I was to pick up her daughter from soccer practice and meet them at the bowling alley. Sounds innocent enough right? Riiiiight!!
I walk in, spot her....give her the look of "which one is he?", she does the sly spy nod his direction, I turn, I look.....ummm...not my type BUT I'm trying to bend a little right?? You can't dismiss someone right away without at least giving them the shot of talking with them. Personality can always trump looks in my book....a guy can be good looking, but you don't want a bore to hang with. While my friend is bowling, I decide to take another quick glimpse at the prospect. In doing so...I see his finger hit his nose, ok...it went IN his nose. I quickly turn my head because I figure he's embarassing himself bad enough, he didn't need to see someone catching him do this. But it's like a bad train wreck, you just can't turn away very long...so just as quick as I turned my head, I turned back his direction. To my utter dismay, his finger went from his nose into his mouth!! OH......MY.....GOSH.....I should have ran then, I should have went with my instinct, grabbed my purse and ran!!! I quickly told my friend what I saw and she was in just as much shock as I was. Oh yes, of course we were laughing....it's still an inside joke between us. My 5 year old doesn't even do that for goodness sake.
Let's just say for some idiotic reason, I decided to stay and still talk with this guy. Why oh why?? The conversation took a turn for the worst as he began to make extremely crude comments about himself, body parts, and my Uncle's business (whom this guy knew). Need the less to say, my friend and her husband were just as shocked as I was. The comment was made he's never acted like that, they were very disappointed and more than apologetic....they're very lucky I love them as much as I do. LOL. I left that crazy scene, got in my car....replayed it all...and couldn't stop laughing!!!! I thought this was stuff you hear about in movies or T.V. shows, I didn't think this was possible in real life. Unbelieveable!!
So note to self....go back to being picky, go back to trusting my inner compass, God gave me that for a reason. If all else fails, at least I can keep myself from having to endure another scenerio like that. Yep, this one goes in the books....or the blog in this case!!
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